Practice smiling a lot. Have you ever heard of an "easy smile"? People
with easy smiles break into a grin effortlessly, and it usually makes
those around them feel happy. When you practice a lot, smiling will
become easier, and you'll look less strained when you do it. Practice
what you feel to be your most attractive smile. Soon your confidence in
your smile will increase, and you'll start flashing it without
thinking.Look at photos of yourself smiling in different ways. Do you
like your smile best when your mouth is closed or open? Check it out
from different angles. Which smiles and poses make your face light up
the most? Which smile displays your other features to their best
possible advantage? Which smile comes across as the most natural, the
most "you"? Figure out which smile you like best, then practice in front
of a mirror until you get it just right. Pay attention to how that
great smile feels, so that you'll be able to replicate it without
looking in a mirror.Practice smiling at random strangers. Simply make
brief eye contact with a person and smile. As you do so, think happy
thoughts. Not everyone will smile back, but note how you feel when they
do!2Smile with your eyes. A wholehearted smile will naturally draw in
the eyes. This natural smile is called a Duchenne smile. It's not
something you can fake; when you're forced to smile for photos, your
eyes don't smile. It's only when you truly feel like smiling that you
flash a Duchenne. The eyes are essential for a genuine, warm smile.To
get a feel for how to make your eyes smile, stand in front of
amirror and practice smiling, but concentrate only on your eyes. You may
find it helpful to cover the lower part of your face with a piece of
paper. Play around with it a bit, and you'll find that you can make your
mouth smile when your eyes aren't smiling, and you can also smile only
with your eyes.When your eyes do smile, remember how it feels, which
muscles are working and how. With practice, you may discover how to
smile with your eyes at will by relying on your feelings and muscle
memory.3Maintain good oral hygiene. One thing that can cause you to fear
smiling is the worry that there is something stuck between your teeth,
or that you have bad breath. Eliminate these sources of worry by taking
active steps to keep your mouth fresh and clean.Brush your teeth and
tongue regularly, carry floss with you wherever you go so that you can
clean up after dining, and have breath freshener on you at all times
(natural or commercial).See your dentist regularly for teeth check-ups
and cleaning, as well as discussing options for teeth straightening or
other treatments if this is a concern for you. When you smile people
will inevitably look at your mouth, so following these considerations
will help you make a better impression, and, more importantly, a healthy
mouth will make you feel more confident about smiling.If your teeth are
stained, consider your lifestyle habits that bring this about and try
to minimize the impacts of such habits as smoking or drinking too much
red wine, coffee, soft drinks, etc. You can also get them whitened if
that will improve your confidence.Keep your lips in great shape to
prevent chapping.Deal with bad breath. If it's surface, cleaning and
fresheners should be adequate. If these do not work, it may be a sign of
an underlying health problem, so see your doctor for advice.
Smiling for the Right Reasons
1Make your smile genuine. While it is perfectly possible to crack a
smile when you feel terrible, angry, annoyed, or you're up to something
nefarious, smiling under these circumstances will make people wary of
you. A genuine smile is much harder to fake. A genuine smile is
detectable by others because it is accompanied by a general glow,
smiling eyes where the outer corners crinkle and the lower lid tightens,
and a reassuring demeanor that helps the viewer to feel more at ease in
your presence. Here's how to smile more genuinely:Don't smile when you
just aren't feeling it. It will give others the impression that you
can't be trusted. It's ok not to smile all day long.Remember how it
feels when you do crack a genuine smile. Try to regain that feeling each
time you smile.2Smile when you feel good. A genuine smile comes from
being happy, positive, and from drawing your feelings from the heart. Be
happy that things are going well for the person you're talking to, that
someone's joke is funny, that the sun is out, or that you're about to
eat your favorite food. There are lots of reasons to be happy, and to
smile!Even when you aren't feeling cheerful, you can still find reasons
to smile. Focus on the positive things that are going on in your life.
Your mood will lift and it will feel easier to smile.When you're
confronted by a person or situation that makes you feel ambivalent and
you're oscillating between being solemn or smiling, err on the side of
smiling – find one single thing in your heart that is positive about the
person or situation before you, and use that to create your
smile.3Smile out of love. Think about someone you care about (perhaps
the person standing in front of you as you smile), or about something
that you genuinely love to do. It's much easier to produce friendly,
easygoing, genuine smiles when you love what you do, when you love the
people around you, and when you love humanity in general. Be grateful
for all that you have and you'll find smiles come far more
naturally.4Smile when you're feeling playful. Intense times can make us
too serious. See life as an adventure, be gentle on yourself and allow
your inner child to play. Being playful will bring a smile to your face
much more easily.
Making Smiling Part of Everyday Life
1Smile when you normally wouldn't. Have you been holding back your smile
out fear that it will make people wonder about you? Smiles attract
attention, but it's the right kind of attention. As you go about your
day, consider ways smiling can make your world a more positive
place.Smiling at work or during other professional occasions is not
going to make you seem unprofessional. Quite the opposite, a smile will
humanize you and make you appear more approachable. People will
appreciate your recognition of their worth and of a job well done when
you smile.A smile makes you seem "real." If you're afraid of appearing
vulnerable when you smile, accept that any form of vulnerability
suggested by a smile is precisely what makes it such a powerful act.
You're opening yourself up to others and people will respond better to
that than to a serious, unmoved demeanor. Moreover, a smile accompanied
by an assertive personality will take care of any sense that people will
use your smile to walk all over you!2Expect smiling to be difficult in
some situations. Smiling on demand can be difficult, whether it's for a
photo or for the sake of keeping mom happy when the relatives you can't
stand visit. This is because you are feeling self-conscious or you lack a
genuine reason for smiling. In these sorts of cases, smiling needs to
come from your memory of good smiles along with a little self-kidding or
jokes in the head.For a photo, smile 20 percent more than you think you
should.[1]Smile wide and show the top row of teeth. Don't forget to use
your eyes!3Enjoy the many benefits of a smile. In order to want to
smile, it really helps to know what benefits a smile can bring to your
day. The following benefits are bound to make you lean towards sharing a
grin with others most of the day:Smiles improve your appearance.
Charles Gordy once quipped: "A smile is an inexpensive way to change
your looks". All you need to do is think about how you feel about a
person who is frowning and a person who is smiling – who tends to be the
better looking?Smiles make things right again and say much more than
words can. If you've goofed, said something less than complimentary,
feel lost or alone, or feel down, a smile can restore the balance. It
lets other people know that you're prepared to be open with them, and
that you're willingly agreeing to make amends where needed.Smiles create
trust and rapport. A smile is a great way of establishing mutual
feelings of being on the same level as others, whether that is
one-to-one or in front of a group giving a presentation. It says "I'm
OK, you're OK, and we're all going to enjoy one another's
company."Smiles make you feel good. Even if you're feeling a little
blue, insert happy thoughts into your mind and just add that smile. It
will trick your mind into feeling better, as endorphins are released to
reduce physical or emotional stress.[2]Smiles make other people feel
good. An open-mouthed smile is visible from further away than a frown,
offering people reassurance that you're friendly.[3] And it makes people
feel better to see a smile, from afar or close-up.Wrinkles are better
when they're smile lines rather than frown lines. Mark Twain said:
"Wrinkles should merely indicate where smiles have been"; viewed this
way, smiles are an indication of your overall character, which becomes
more and more outwardly telling as you age!Smiling is a good long-term
predictor of happier life outcomes. It's correlated
withhealth, happiness, friends, success, and a longer lifeHow to Smile
Do you want to be the person who walks into a room and lights it up with
your smile? Smiling seems to come more naturally to some people than
others, but like any habit, it gets much easier with practice. Smiling
raises your spirits and makes other people happy - it's a very powerful
expression.
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